Saturday, December 30, 2006

Goodbye?

The end of the year has also brought some not-so-welcome endings--nubian's done. As are BfP and BlackAmazon. As a WoC, feminist*, woman, I am mourning the loss of their input. I want to say I understand, and I do on some level. But then again, I don't understand what it's like to be out there, brave and bold and constantly put on the defense. Just fierce.

Because I am non-confrontational; I disengage; I run when the fire gets too hot. I can retreat here and say, ha-ha-ha, isn't my kid the cutest? or I saw this movie! or wow, I'm so caught up in my dissertation, I can't focus on much else! You see, I have the courage of my convictions, but little courage in my words and beliefs on so many issues. So, no, I don't understand much.

But I know it must get tiring to hear how what you're doing or saying is off and wrong, that you're too sensitive, to be constantly dismissed by people who, on the surface, would appear to be allies. And I know it must get old to have someone come to your site, all demurely, and comment "with respect" then run back to her place and say that you and your regular commenters
"haven’t evidenced they have even begun to think deeply around issues of transgender as they relate to feminism and gender, in general, but who hold the erroneous belief that they have; relentlessly mischaracterize and misunderstand my and other radical feminist views; reject what I say out of hand before I can say it, most of the time and reassert all of the above instead of evidencing any interest in actually communicating"
(and that's just the beginning--or middle, maybe). I tried to think of a nice academic term for that, but I'ma have to call it what we call it around here:

Two-faced. Throwing rocks and hiding your hands. And one thing I do understand,

That shit can wear you out real fast.
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*not sure that term fits exactly

4 comments:

Skye said...

BFP did post something very beautiful to Black Amazon on her blog.

It's really disheartening, but I honestly can't blame them.

ChasingMoksha said...

They will be back.

On another note, since you quoted that passage, how does it feel to get out there? Should I say welcome to the liberating club? Folks either going to be mad at you or not, hate you or love you, but at least you can say you pointed out what you saw as an injustice.

elle said...

moksha, you know i've rethought it a million times--that old, hesitant-to-offend sentiment. but that is how it seemed to me.

Gwyneth Bolton said...

Elle,

If these sisters are really leaving then it will be a loss. One thing I do know is that it is taxing to have these battles on a regular, especially when you are having them with folk who are supposed to be or represent themselves as allies. I do it day to day, face to face in the day job. I don't want to do it on the web. That's one of the main reasons, the academic me doesn't have a blog and the romance writer me does. Frankly, I don't like the way a lot of these arguments about race, class, sexuality, gender, oppression, racism, sexism, homphobia, etc play out on the web. There is too much space for people to be mean and hateful and hide. I like to see the people hating on me. I like to know who they are. When you write something and publish it or go to a conference and folk confront you or your views you know who they are. This view of mine may change one day... Who knows...
Happy New Year!

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