Happy Birthday to me!
Reactions have been mixed. My friend Coti and my dad act as if they are in awe:
Coti: "Damn, girl, you almost 40?
Daddy: "You 35?!?!?!" (He's reflecting on what it means that he has a 35-year-old child. Yes, Pops, you're a senior citizen. :-)
I've received numerous birthday wishes, including a rousing version of "Feliz Cumpleanos." You have to be grateful for Dora's alleviation of young Americans' un-sophisticated monolingualism. You also have to be grateful to have wonderful friends and family and gentle reminders from FB.
I have my 3-year-old goddaughter. This is a talking, squealing, bossy little mama. She finally noticed my dad's leg. Unlike some of the smaller kids in the family who have been hesitant to approach him or even been fearful (which I hate for him), she had to conduct a minute inspection:
"Paw-Paw, you broke your leg off?"
"Nah, baby they cut off."
"You did that? You cut your leg?"
"No, the doctor?"
"With a knife? Why they do that?"
So, he debated explaining it, then went with, "It was bad."
Then, she said, "Paw-Paw, let me see," at which point, a careful examination complete with soft murmurs and sympathetic pats to his leg ensued.
It took forever to get her settled and Ms.Thing was back up before 8 AM. To say I am not used to that is an understatement.
Surprisingly, I have no plans for today. Went with friends and family for a birthday dinner Saturday. Having a party this weekend. Forgot to plan to do something on my actual birthday! I might spend it grading. That would be a wonderful gift to myself--to go back to work with a clean slate :-p
I will take down the twist-set C-Payne did on my hair so I can be wavy and cute as I bleed red ink all over essay exams.
I think it will be okay. :-)
Monday, November 23, 2009
Cumpleanos y Mas
Saturday, October 17, 2009
What's the Matter with Louisiana?
Been thinking about starting a new blog called "Dispatches from the South" or something so I can just post ridiculous and non-ridiculous shit I stumble across everyday.
Then I realized, I barely write here!!! Might as well post my observations here. So, continuing my critique of Louisianans who make me want to pull my eyelashes out, I present the following two items:
Interracial Couple Denied Marriage License in Louisiana
and
Sharon Hodges, 61,... was charged with simple battery and disturbing the peace with racial slurs Thursday.
Okay, I ain't gone lie...
My first thought when I saw the first article was, "I have to tell Kim!" but then, I wondered if that put her in the, "Hi, I'm elle and this is my best friend, Kim, worldwide spokesperson for all biracial people" position.
So, I decided that it would be fun to just half-heartedly pick apart this racist Justice of the Peace's (he should not bear any title with the word "Justice" in it, IMHO) (il)logic:"I'm not a racist. I just don't believe in mixing the races that way," Keith Bardwell told the Associated Press on Thursday.
He is talking using terms like, "mixing the races."
He apparently believes that somewhere, there is a "pure" race. He is prefacing his sentence with, "I'm not a racist..." He seems totally unaware or unaccepting of the notion of race as a political, social, and economic construct. Yes, Mr. Bardwell, you are a racist. He then says,"I have piles and piles of black friends. They come to my home, I marry them, they use my bathroom. I treat them just like everyone else."
Really, is he using the "I have a (fill-in-the-blank) friend!" argument? And is there anything more telling than, "They use my bathroom?" He compares his racial "tolerance" to the Jim Crow Era and has decided he his suitably progressive? Progressive enough that he's wiling to allow black people in his house and take the risk of getting our cooties![I]t is his experience that most interracial marriages do not last long...
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[Bardwell] came to the conclusion that most of black society does not readily accept offspring of such relationships, and neither does white society, he said.
"There is a problem with both groups accepting a child from such a marriage," Bardwell said. "I think those children suffer and I won't help put them through it."
I don't know divorce statistics, I really don't. But I don't think the rate of staying-togetherness is impressive for many marriages these days, regardless of the racial background of the partners. If the rate of divorce is higher for interracial couples, I can't imagine why, given the welcoming and supportive social climate evidenced by people like Bardwell.
Also, this theory that people do not "accept" biracial children? First, let me state that I understand CLEARLY the difference between conceiving children in a consensual, loving relationship and conceiving them in a sexually exploitative system like slavery. But I have to point out that biracial children have a long history of being part of "black" families, because of the realities of the lives of enslaved women. Not "accepted," as if the effort to love them is always complicated and must be consciously undertaken.* It's as if Bardwell has been enjoying some of that "tragic mulatto" literature on the side.**
There is nothing that makes biracial children inherently prone to "suffering." Of course, I cannot personally speak to the experiences of biracial children and I know there are issues living in this society as a biracial person. But much of that is the byproduct of living in a highly racialized country, where we've understood race, for so long, as a binary, and are obsessed with making people fit one category or another. Louisiana is a perfect example; it wasn't that long ago that the state proved it's dedication to the one-drop rule.
Then, finally, If he did an interracial marriage for one couple, he must do the same for all, he said.
"I try to treat everyone equally," he said.
No, you don't. if you're marrying some people and not marrying others, you are not treating everyone equally.
And, if I'm not mistaken, this is an elected position in Louisiana.
As to that second article, A West Monroe police affidavit said Hodges claimed a woman cut in front of her at Walmart's return desk, and the woman's daughter lunged at her.
I would ask, in whose mind does it make sense that the reaction to cutting line is slinging racial slurs, but I think this says it all:
[snip]
The woman's daughter admitted to lunging at Hodges after she used a racial epithet.[W]itnesses heard Hodges yell a racial epithet at the woman and say, "You will respect your elders, especially since I'm white."
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*I am not trying to dismiss the fact that there was undoubtedly resentment and struggles as enslaved women and men dealt with slaveowners' sexual violence.
** Since he depends on his perspective as a Louisianan, let me throw in mine. Lately, when I go home, every time I enter a store, I see white grandparents or godparents or aunts and uncles (and I partly assume the relationships and partly know for sure, because people ask them, "Who is this you got with you?") with biracial children all the time. Why do I even note it? Because that was NOT something I saw growing up there.
Friday, October 16, 2009
I, John Brown, Am Now Quite Sure...
Today marks 150 years since the failed raid on Harper's Ferry. In the aftermath, John Brown predicted, "that the crimes of this guilty land will never be purged away but with blood."
The historical portrayal of him for so long was dismissive and ableist-- he had to have been wild and "crazy"-- what white man would risk all that for black people? It pissed me off badly. I adored John Brown when I heard of him in my history classes. In fact, while working on my M.A., I took on the haters in a paper entitled "John Brown: Crazy like a Fox." If I had known then what I know now, it might have actually been a good paper. :-)
Thinking of how he has been "written" reminds me of several things:
1) The people who dismiss slavery as the most significant factor leading to Civil War (again, the idea that this nation would've torn itself up over an issue that had black people at the heart of it? Impossible!)
2) Tim Wise's observation that so many people, when made aware of his anti-racist work, ask, "What happened to you?!" Hard to imagine that people would actually work to disinvest in whiteness--which shows how much we need to re-think the ideas that whiteness and related privilege are largely invisible*
3) H. Rap Brown's (Jamil Abdullah al-Amin) assertion that "violence is as American as cherry pie." It's been a primary tool of this nation-state; why are we surprised that citizens of any political position engage in it? And relatedly...
4) ...The absolute dissonance that allowed southern sympathizers to write about the Klan, for the longest time, as an honorable organization, that still allows my students to be taken aback by my use of "terrorism" when I describe Redemption, but permits the vilification of John Brown.
5) Another John Brown quote: I want you to understand that I respect the rights of the poorest and weakest of colored people, oppressed by the slave system, just as much as I do those of the most wealthy and powerful. That is the idea that has moved me, and that alone
which often makes me wonder how his position on class** also contributed to the portrayal of him.
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* And people are doing this work. Beyond the writings I've seen, a few weeks ago, I saw one of Jane Elliott's older films in which she asked an audience full of white people how many of them would like to be treated like PoC in this country. Not a single hand was raised.
** Respect for the poor and "weak" is derided now--imagine how it must've been 150 years ago.
Saturday, October 10, 2009
Oh, Look, Fellow Louisianans!
We finally found something in which we can be number one:
"Louisiana's rate of women murdered by men is marked number one in the country."*
Shortly after that line, the article (from a Shreveport television station) reports: "This news hits us at a time when a local shelter for battered women is struggling to stay afloat."
Some other areas in which we are "notably" ranked (just a select few):
We have the "highest number of deaths of infants per 1,000 births and total infant mortality."
In overall child well-being, we are the second lowest.
We have the second highest rate of child poverty. We are number 49 in the nation, behind only Mississippi. Considering the facts that 1)we were "just" number 48 a few years ago and 2) "analysts see harder times ahead thanks to the still-lurching economy," Mississippi might oughta be worried--we're coming for your position, baby!
But, you know, at least we ain't supporting no crazy shit like shelters and centers for survivors of "domestic" violence**, education and better healthcare!
That would be the real drain on the citizens of Louisiana.
I mean, even if it's unclear what Louisianans are for, we do know what they're against. Trying to maintain political, economic, and racial hierarchies is much more important than the fate of Louisiana's children.
We all understand the un-avoidability of "collateral damage," right?
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*This deserves a much more serious post of its own.
**That page lists centers, advocates, and support networks in 26 Louisiana parishes. Louisiana has 64 parishes.
I'm Loving My 9-Year-Old Nephew with the Intensity of a Thousand Suns
I know I talk a lot about Deuce--the new-baby-ness hasn't worn off in 18 months, apparently.
But his older brother, the kid whom I co-parented for a while, the kid who knows me like the back of his hand, is also incredibly close to my heart.
He does things like call me from Louisiana when shows he knows I like are on TV.
One day, in a buffet-style restaurant, he presented me with a caramel sundae he'd made, just because he's seen me order them before. It was the best one ever.
He calls me every Saturday that my alma mater plays to tell me game time. He just called to tell me, "We're winning now!"
I don't know many kids who are as detail-oriented and observant as he. It's like his mind is a catalogue, and he's carefully tucking away things he notices about what people like, what makes them happy.
And I know some of you think you have pretty cool little relatives...
But, I swear I have the best one.
Saturday, October 03, 2009
Saturday Cuteness
So, my son, his best friend (our neighbor), and I just got home. While in the car, I noticed a Bed, Bath, & Beyond Coupon on the seat and said, "Oh, good. I need a grill!"
My sour little kid said, "Why? We don't have enough friends to grill for."
To which I said, "Ummm... I have friends. You might not be invited out, but I am."
His reply was, "But y'all go to happy hours. I can't go, unless..."
"Unless what?"
"We do like the cartoons, and I get on top and [the neighbor kid] is on bottom under a trenchcoat so we look tall."
So, I saw the best friend look at him in the mirror. Then, the best friend said, "Dude that would NOT work."
I thought he was going to say because my son's face would still look young or it would be so obvious what was going on.
Instead, he said, "How you gone explain Mexican legs with a black person on top?"
They fell out laughing, then my son tried to think up explanations. "I could say I'm biracial."
And the best friend nixed that one, "You wouldn't be half-and-half like that!"
More laughter.
"They did it on Scooby-Doo all the time!"
"They were all the same color!"
"No, it'd be Scooby on the bottom."
"They only fooled ghosts and monsters."
"Ghosts and monsters could see!"
"You need to think before you talk, dude. Scooby-Doo is ridiculous and so are you."
At that point, they were laughing so hard they couldn't sit up. I was wondering what was so funny, but smiling.
I cannot figure out what makes these kids tick! :-p
Wednesday, September 16, 2009
Left in Limbo
When 19-year-old Tegan Leach fell pregnant, she and her boyfriend, 21-year-old Sergie Brennan, decided they did not want to carry the pregnancy to term. She chose to have an abortion. For making that choice, she now faces seven years in prison, and her boyfriend, three.
Tegan Leach lives in Cairns, Queensland in Australia, where having an abortion is a crime. From this article, it appears that a woman can be administered RU-486, if it is determined that the woman’s health is at risk. The article doesn’t mention any other exceptions. So, Leach and Brennan procured a “Chinese version” of RU-486 from Ukraine and induced a miscarriage at home. Police later found the packets that had contained the drugs while searching their home for other reasons.
At the heart of this story is Tegan Leach and I don’t want to divert our attention from that. But I am struck by how her case reveals the systematic way that anti-abortion laws and advocates work to circumscribe the choices of all women, by creating an atmosphere of terror. Women and doctors fear prosecution, ostracism, and vigilante attacks. Since Leach’s case came to light:
Their home has been firebombed.
Her boyfriend’s car has been vandalized.
They have had to go into hiding.
Doctors have stopped prescribing RU-486 (and many of them were hesitant to do so before her case, given the ambiguity surrounding whether or not it should be administered).
And:Queensland hospitals recently suspended drug-induced abortions after the Leach case and insurance companies in the state said that they would withdraw cover from doctors who aided medical abortions. Their decision forced dozens of women over the border into New South Wales for terminations. After doctors there, too, refused to perform abortions for fear of being prosecuted, a number of women were left in limbo…
Always, women are “left in limbo,” waiting for others to decide what our level of autonomy over our own bodies should be.
Wednesday, September 02, 2009
MediaMakers Whom I Love...
Did you know Lex is doing Eternal Summer of the Black Feminist Mind podcasts now? Well, she is, in the-most-gorgeous-voice-in-the-world.
Kortney Ryan Ziegler's groundbreaking film, Still Black, is now available for purchase for individual viewing.
Kameelah is chronicling her Ramadan experiences; the words and images are stunning.
As you've probably noticed, I've been inblognito for a while, so tell me some exciting things you think I should see/hear...
Saturday, August 29, 2009
Watching a Documentary...
...about Reconstruction and am mildly placated by one historian's linking of the era with the later civil rights struggle; he argues that "We see the legacy of Reconstruction. It took generations for [the promise of Reconstruction] to play out, but it never died."
Mmmm... That whole federal-abandonment-and-southern-rewriting-of-history thing still rankles though. Sometimes, there's a reason (or four million of them) that "Lost Causes" are lost.
