tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19408862.post573788194516623541..comments2023-10-29T04:36:52.733-05:00Comments on elle, phd: Why Your Community Ain't Like Mineellehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01867952598756889997noreply@blogger.comBlogger15125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19408862.post-81323294936621400102009-06-07T22:59:42.371-05:002009-06-07T22:59:42.371-05:00I decided long ago that I didn't want children...<i>I decided long ago that I didn't want children, and it's been the right choice for me. But the sheer hate and vitriol and short-sightedness and white privilege of the "childfree communities" is something I never want to be near again.</i><br /><br />Yes, this. I ran into the same thing and was just shocked and appalled. <br /><br />I was less shocked by what happened at Feministing, sadly, but still appalled.whatsernamehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15731411057968563416noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19408862.post-84494729128901852672009-06-04T20:17:43.643-05:002009-06-04T20:17:43.643-05:00here from stephiepenguin. Ashé-o.here from stephiepenguin. Ashé-o.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19408862.post-23516429530019474182009-06-03T23:11:03.419-05:002009-06-03T23:11:03.419-05:00what a fabulous post elle. bookmarked.what a fabulous post elle. bookmarked.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19408862.post-70068942358093381322009-06-03T06:13:40.734-05:002009-06-03T06:13:40.734-05:00Thank you, thank you, thank you. I wish this post ...Thank you, thank you, thank you. I wish this post had been on Shakesville instead of the "waaaaah, I had an inconvenient time getting sterilized" one. <br /><br />I decided long ago that I didn't want children, and it's been the right choice for me. But the sheer hate and vitriol and short-sightedness and white privilege of the "childfree communities" is something I never want to be near again. I wish I could hammer this post into every one of their heads, but they'll never goddamn listen. Fuck them.Bellahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03727882356904442215noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19408862.post-82598028828906893302009-05-30T09:44:31.122-05:002009-05-30T09:44:31.122-05:00I do not have any children yet. I want to. But I m...I do not have any children yet. I want to. But I may never be able to -- able to conceive, able to survive pregnancy, or even able to survive raising a child either way. I just don't know, and won't know until we feel ready to try. And we haven't felt ready yet.<br /><br />I feel so much more welcome in the company of mothers who are womanist/feminist-minded, oftentimes, even when I feel like I could be totally fine if I never had children myself. I don't understand how these people can be excluded from an honest attempt to better women's welfare. <br /><br />There is love and affection and community in family, and that is a powerful, powerful force to be tapped into. And my family includes mothers and fathers, includes aunts and uncles, includes sisters and brothers and cousins who do not have children and never will. It includes the children of other family members. And they are all, each, equally my family. They all contribute to the family, a unique and special contribution that could come from no one but themselves. And there is so much power in that, and it makes me so sad to think that there are those who resent a good portion of their own families -- in a literal (blood) and metaphorical (community) sense -- and shut themselves off from this incredible force.amandahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00741559544508220186noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19408862.post-52513170696461213772009-05-30T00:57:06.695-05:002009-05-30T00:57:06.695-05:00Ah I thought I left a comment telling you how incr...Ah I thought I left a comment telling you how incredible this was and thanking you profusely for writing it and informing you it's one I'll come back to, but apparently not, so - FIXED. heh. seriously though, amazing work.isabelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07132827328034228191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19408862.post-86654172017030146752009-05-29T15:27:50.289-05:002009-05-29T15:27:50.289-05:00brilliant....and beautiful and bold.brilliant....and beautiful and bold.nezuahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15995684765874074779noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19408862.post-49085827784259694422009-05-29T12:55:13.199-05:002009-05-29T12:55:13.199-05:00There's such power and truth in this post. Thanks ...There's such power and truth in this post. Thanks for writing it.Dissident Sisterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05178506352523801512noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19408862.post-1669776282548343762009-05-29T01:55:10.171-05:002009-05-29T01:55:10.171-05:00thank you allthank you allellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01867952598756889997noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19408862.post-29883365108226578292009-05-28T22:51:21.131-05:002009-05-28T22:51:21.131-05:00ah, digesting/ingesting this. Thank you. thank you...ah, digesting/ingesting this. Thank you. thank you.ms noemihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02945212983223939181noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19408862.post-82027687812805630542009-05-28T08:28:17.489-05:002009-05-28T08:28:17.489-05:00Ay it took me a few days to muster the courage to ...Ay it took me a few days to muster the courage to sit down and read this in one sitting pero thank you for it mujer. It is put together so well.Maegan la Malahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02150905635603224058noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19408862.post-6970274582214989952009-05-28T03:14:11.280-05:002009-05-28T03:14:11.280-05:00beautiful post.beautiful post.armahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08660740506487101587noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19408862.post-84234042027048999702009-05-27T15:24:42.204-05:002009-05-27T15:24:42.204-05:00Excellent and emotional post elle. I cry as I read...Excellent and emotional post elle. I cry as I read it again and although your words are true in that we know we are not a luxury, I still feel so despondent at times. As I read bfp and noemi's blogs I wonder, Why is everything such a struggle and is it my fault because I am not making the right decisions? Why is my son struggling in school when I am a teacher? Am I not doing enough for him? My mind seems to know this is not be true, but my heart makes me feel as if I will die wondering what MORE could I have done for everyone else but myself.mrs. ohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02444506032602167613noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19408862.post-50368104798196864172009-05-27T12:45:53.137-05:002009-05-27T12:45:53.137-05:00I love you so muchI love you so muchBlackamazonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13726019544296849558noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19408862.post-77779374235099898282009-05-27T12:27:09.830-05:002009-05-27T12:27:09.830-05:00Elle,
This is so brilliant and powerful and nee...Elle, <br /> This is so brilliant and powerful and needed that it is bringing me to tears. Thank you for writing this. This is exactly the type of community building theory creation that we need. I am going to read this again and again. I hope you are crossposting it at Revolutionary Motherhood too!<br /><br />infinite love, <br /> lexlexhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08265539602839655150noreply@blogger.com